Choosing a ketubah will be one of the most exciting parts of wedding planning for many Jewish and interfaith couples. As a wedding rabbi who has seen dozens of ketubot and checked them for errors, I’m here to tell you that no two are exactly alike, but they’re all equally emotional.

These days, there are diverse viewpoints within the Jewish communityon interfaith marriage, and each one is worth acknowledging. My goal isn't to convince or persuade; it's all about understanding, inclusion, and connection. This is the case for every rabbi and Jewish professional with an opinion to share on the subject, by the way - we are universally concerned with the continuation of Jewish life in the world.

Let’s talk about the  history of Jewish-Interfaith marriage. But before we dive in, let's set a few things straight. I want to emphasize that my goal is not to convince anyone to marry within or outside their faith. It's about understanding the twists and turns of the Jewish Peoples’ relationship to interfaith marriage, and how it shapes our perspectives today. 

Premarital counseling is a valuable resource that can enhance your relationship by providing tools, communication skills, and a safe space to address potential challenges. It's not a guarantee against problems, but it's a proactive step towards building a strong foundation for your marriage. Remember, it's about going in together as a team, just like you're about to embark on your married life together. So, consider it, explore your options, and ensure you're both on board with the process.

Premarital counseling is one of the most common questions I receive from couples planning their weddings, especially those who are hesitant about the idea. I understand; wedding planning is a whirlwind of cake tastings, venue tours, meetings with vendors, and family gatherings. The thought of adding more to the mix can be overwhelming. But let's unpack this topic and address your questions and concerns.

First and foremost, do I require premarital counseling from my couples? The answer is a straightforward "No." I do not require premarital counseling, nor do I offer it as part of my wedding officiant services. However, I do recommend it in certain cases, and here's where it gets a bit more nuanced—it depends.