How to Find a Rabbi for your Jewish or Interfaith Wedding Part 2- The Search
So, now that you’ve figured out what you’re looking for in a wedding rabbi, how do you actually find one? Lots of ways. Let’s dive in.
Step 1: The Obvious
Remember that amazing rabbi you encountered at a Jewish wedding? The one who made you feel truly connected? Start there! Reach out to her with a heartfelt call saying, "Hey, Rabbi LeighAnn here, I was at Soandso's wedding and I loved your ceremony. I'm getting married and I'd be honored if you could officiate for us."
Step 2: Ask for Recommendations
Even if you didn't attend the perfect wedding, don't worry! If you're not entirely sold on a particular rabbi, you can still reach out for suggestions. Call the rabbi you saw, even if they weren't a perfect fit, and say something like, "You did a wonderful job at that wedding, but we're seeking a slightly different ceremony. Can you recommend someone?"
Step 3: Harness the Power of Google
When in doubt, Google is your friend. Search for "Ohio rabbi" or specific keywords related to your location. While Google's algorithm might not have the latest trends, it's a great starting point. You might just find a gem that wasn't on your radar.
Step 4: Tap into Online Resources
Check out websites like 18doors.org (formerly interfaithfamily.com) for a list of interfaith-friendly Jewish clergy in North America. It's an excellent resource to start your search. Just remember to fill in the details like your wedding date and preferences and, once again, be honest!
Step 5: Social Media Sleuthing
Social media isn't just for fun – it's a goldmine of information. Follow local wedding professionals, photographers, and even Instagram accounts that share chuppa, hora, or ketubah pictures. If you spot something intriguing, reach out to anyone who was tagged and ask who the rabbi was.
Step 6: Seek Local Jewish Organizations
Don't forget about local synagogues, Jewish community centers, and Hillel centers if you're near a college or university. They might have a rabbi on hand or know someone who'd be a perfect fit for your wedding.
Step 7: Leverage “Jewish Geography”
Jewish communities have a unique way of connecting people. Ask around, even if you're a few degrees separated. Your coworkers, friends, or acquaintances might just know someone who knows the perfect rabbi for your big day. A lot of rabbis are willing and even happy to officiate a wedding, but they haven’t made a business out of it…yet. You just might be the couple to inspire them to officiate more and more weddings!
Remember, you're not alone in this journey. Your wedding professionals, even if they're not Jewish, can be a treasure trove of recommendations. And don't hesitate to ask your wedding planner, vendors, or even acquaintances for their insights.
Your wedding planner, caterer, DJ, florist, and especially venue coordinator most likely have either worked with a local wedding rabbi, or know someone who knows one. Keep asking!
